No Quarter for Men

Military men are in a difficult situation when accused of domestic violence. These men are taught how to kill and told to follow orders without asking questions in the heat of battle. Wars are won or lost based upon how well a fighting force follows these principles during battle. The best military men are faithful, loyal and will protect their own.

When you add these traits to a personal relationship, military men are often the best husbands; at least, as long as the wife is faithful. When the wife turns her eyes towards other men (or women), a well-trained fighter wants to protect his family and will use every means at his disposal. When people get hurt, the cocktail of events should be right up there with the temporary insanity defenses of wacked out women like Andrea Yates.

However, when no one gets hurt, except for their feelings, unfaithful wives should not be allowed to pretend that they are victims of domestic violence. In the case of Ernie Gomez, discussed in the Hawaii Advertiser on August 20, 2008, “Convicted felon’s jail time on hold,” a soldier caught himself from doing harm and backed off a potentially deadly encounter. His insanity and temporary indiscretion gave way to a clear understanding for the potential for harm, and full accountability for his actions. Soldiers like this should be awarded for their ability to resolve crisis situations.

It appears that is what the judge had in mind when he chose to release Gomez pending appeal and requested pardon. His appeal was denied based upon the strict demands of well-funded, domestic violence prosecutors who are looking to sacrifice this lamb on the fire of women’s victimhood. The pardon is under consideration at the governor’s office and is the target of a flaming campaign by domestic violence advocates.

Dozen’s of local people responding to the Advertiser article are calling for this man’s blood. A few are defending his character and being skewered with vitriolic responses.

I’m saying the laws that got this man convicted in the first place are broken. They are designed to assume that the woman has no fault and that, even in a moment of crisis, a man should be jailed. The laws conveniently overlook the woman who is violating her marital vows. Current laws give her the motive, the right, and the freedom to destroy a marriage and benefit from the transaction.

The same locals are calling for the burning of the judge who allowed this man to be free while waiting these decisions. The judge chose between sentencing a man to five years of hard time for doing the right thing and not applying the minimum penalty. The judge has been brave in his decision to fight the rabid DV prosecutors and women’s rights groups who want nothing more than this soldier’s head on a plate. A man in a marriage is the new “John.”

Domestic Violence Protection Advocates have a lot of Federal, State and private money funding their war chest against men. Their unwavering cry is that men are bad, women are victims, though science can prove that we all hurt each other sometime.

The violence of women’s advocates can be measured by the lives and the families destroyed. They say they want to protect women by demanding that every woman admit she is abused. Then, they tear apart families, cause divorces, destroy children’s lives, destroy the men who would be fathers, and cost society far more than they benefit the few real victims.

I know. I am their victim, too. And I know many others who have suffered from the powerful domestic-violence protection machine they control. It’s time to speak out against these people who have destroyed our lives. They will not be satisfied until they have the control to threaten yours.

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