One million false allegations of domestic violence each year, and that was in January 2007.
RADAR, Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting, is a web site accumulating the most outrageous violence against families enabled by the very legislation intended to protect women and children.
How does this happen? In the Rainbow State of Hawaii, the one minority that cannot be tolerated is the man accused of domestic violence. It does not matter if the allegations are true. In this state and in every other state in the United States, there are legions of domestic violence victim’s advocacy groups claiming–falsely–that domestic violence is caused by men and women are its only victims.
The statistics tell otherwise. Men and women are equally to blame for domestic violence and the children are the only victims.
Why is it that when a headline like in today’s Honolulu Advertiser appears, “Mililani woman charged in death of infant boy, looking deeper is not an option.
The article is 133 words long. There is no more information.
A reader responds, “Ok. Before Anyone starts bashing the woman. You don’t know the whole story. These are my relatives. Have Some compassion and consideration here. She’s innocent until proven guilty.”
I agree, we don’t know the whole story. We never do. But if a man had been charged with “intracranial injury due to abusive head trauma” to a child, Honolulu Advertiser readers would be roasting him over a spit.
Domestic Violence is not a men’s only issue. It is a family issue. DV tears families apart. Children lose their fathers in almost every divorce and years later wonder why their mothers kept their fathers out of their lives so much. The child’s anger and hurt is more destructive than anything the mother and father could have done to stay together and make it work.
We have to stop putting men behind bars and cutting off access to their children based on trumped up and false allegations of DV. We have to begin dismantling the multi-million dollar domestic violence advocacy industry here in Hawaii.
Tragedies like this only make it more imperative that a true, honest discussion about domestic violence be brought to our legislative representatives.
To find out more about domestic violence in your home, visit RADAR and my web site at http://www.mywiferanoffwithourkids.com/.
