Comments for Penumbrook's Weblog http://penumbrook.wordpress.com Fathers, families, children, divorce, noncustodial parenting Wed, 14 Oct 2009 09:22:43 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on The Japanese Double Standard by penumbrook http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/2009/10/07/the-japanese-double-standard/#comment-190 penumbrook Wed, 14 Oct 2009 09:22:43 +0000 http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/?p=640#comment-190 Forgive my earlier response. You certainly have a right to be upset about a cheating husband. As much as I have a right to be upset about a Japanese double standard imposed upon me when it was convenient. A jaded woman in any culture will call marriage vows a gilded cage. I think we both agree that Noriko has been given power and control over her children's lives. Will she do the right thing and connect them with their father during their growing years and his half of what and who they are or will she prove the monster that she is by permanently terminating the father's relationship with his children? History does not side with the best interests of these children. Forgive my earlier response. You certainly have a right to be upset about a cheating husband. As much as I have a right to be upset about a Japanese double standard imposed upon me when it was convenient. A jaded woman in any culture will call marriage vows a gilded cage. I think we both agree that Noriko has been given power and control over her children’s lives. Will she do the right thing and connect them with their father during their growing years and his half of what and who they are or will she prove the monster that she is by permanently terminating the father’s relationship with his children? History does not side with the best interests of these children.

]]> Comment on The Japanese Double Standard by penumbrook http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/2009/10/07/the-japanese-double-standard/#comment-189 penumbrook Tue, 13 Oct 2009 04:53:15 +0000 http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/?p=640#comment-189 Focusing on Christopher Savoie's "cheating" is like like complaining that the garbage man didn't pick up the trash while your children are being beaten by your spouse. He moved away from family and friends to be with the woman he loved and start a family. Noriko did not. He learned Japanese. Noriko did not learn English. She threatened him multiple times with divorce (this is abuse in and of itself). She openly expresses her bigotry "It's very difficult to watch kids becoming American and losing Japanese identity." They fought over baseball, Scouts and, likely, other children's activities that are a part of our American culture. This Father has every right to introduce his children to American culture, so that his kids can see what their Dad's culture is like. It is very likely that she cut off all intimacy and sexual companionship long before his eyes started wandering. Noriko cheated her husband out of a happy marriage and she cheated their children out of a Father. Focusing on Christopher Savoie’s “cheating” is like like complaining that the garbage man didn’t pick up the trash while your children are being beaten by your spouse. He moved away from family and friends to be with the woman he loved and start a family. Noriko did not. He learned Japanese. Noriko did not learn English. She threatened him multiple times with divorce (this is abuse in and of itself). She openly expresses her bigotry “It’s very difficult to watch kids becoming American and losing Japanese identity.” They fought over baseball, Scouts and, likely, other children’s activities that are a part of our American culture. This Father has every right to introduce his children to American culture, so that his kids can see what their Dad’s culture is like. It is very likely that she cut off all intimacy and sexual companionship long before his eyes started wandering. Noriko cheated her husband out of a happy marriage and she cheated their children out of a Father.

]]> Comment on The Japanese Double Standard by Caterpillar http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/2009/10/07/the-japanese-double-standard/#comment-188 Caterpillar Sun, 11 Oct 2009 21:40:48 +0000 http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/?p=640#comment-188 The cheating husband to me is more harmful than Noriko. I think the childern should be in Japan because they belong there. If the cheating husband really wants the kids and loves the kids then he has to more to Japan. For starters he didn't keep his marriage vows and cheated on her. Then they lived for 14 years in Japan so that's law of Japan should be the one they both have to obey. The only one who benefits form the ex-wife and the childern moving to US is the cheating husband. She took care of him and the kids when this fool was working for the past 14 years so the $800,000 is rightfully hers. She probably deserves more for putting up with this cheating husband. The cheating husband to me is more harmful than Noriko. I think the childern should be in Japan because they belong there. If the cheating husband really wants the kids and loves the kids then he has to more to Japan. For starters he didn’t keep his marriage vows and cheated on her. Then they lived for 14 years in Japan so that’s law of Japan should be the one they both have to obey. The only one who benefits form the ex-wife and the childern moving to US is the cheating husband. She took care of him and the kids when this fool was working for the past 14 years so the $800,000 is rightfully hers. She probably deserves more for putting up with this cheating husband.

]]> Comment on A Successful Single Mom by BloggerDude http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/2009/09/29/a-successful-single-mom/#comment-187 BloggerDude Fri, 09 Oct 2009 04:27:46 +0000 http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/?p=623#comment-187 I don't know If I said it already but ...I'm so glad I found this site...Keep up the good work I read a lot of blogs on a daily basis and for the most part, people lack substance but, I just wanted to make a quick comment to say GREAT blog. Thanks, :) A definite great read.... I don’t know If I said it already but …I’m so glad I found this site…Keep up the good work I read a lot of blogs on a daily basis and for the most part, people lack substance but, I just wanted to make a quick comment to say GREAT blog. Thanks, :)

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]]> Comment on The Japanese Double Standard by penumbrook http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/2009/10/07/the-japanese-double-standard/#comment-186 penumbrook Thu, 08 Oct 2009 07:17:13 +0000 http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/?p=640#comment-186 I appreciate your thoughtful comments, but I respectfully disagree that I am missing any factual background on the case. The wife gave her word to a judge in a court in the U.S. She went back on her word, disrespecting the child, the ex-husband, the judge and the entire U.S. legal system. This is a woman who has acted without honor and I suspect that her child will grow up in that world. Child abduction is a crime that hurts children and the monsters who commit it should be called what they are. CNN hit the nail on the head with this case. Further, CNN highlighted the Japanese government's refusal to fully take part in the Hague Convention. Until Japan accepts these international standards to protect children, they will encourage disrespectful and dishonorable people to abuse their children. An 18th century culture if I ever saw one! I appreciate your thoughtful comments, but I respectfully disagree that I am missing any factual background on the case. The wife gave her word to a judge in a court in the U.S. She went back on her word, disrespecting the child, the ex-husband, the judge and the entire U.S. legal system. This is a woman who has acted without honor and I suspect that her child will grow up in that world. Child abduction is a crime that hurts children and the monsters who commit it should be called what they are. CNN hit the nail on the head with this case. Further, CNN highlighted the Japanese government’s refusal to fully take part in the Hague Convention. Until Japan accepts these international standards to protect children, they will encourage disrespectful and dishonorable people to abuse their children. An 18th century culture if I ever saw one!

]]> Comment on The Japanese Double Standard by SkyoverTokyo http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/2009/10/07/the-japanese-double-standard/#comment-185 SkyoverTokyo Wed, 07 Oct 2009 15:54:10 +0000 http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/?p=640#comment-185 My recommendation to penumbrook is to perhaps do a little more research on the factual background information surrounding this particular incident as I see a significant lack thereof, such as the fact that Mr. Savoie is a Japanese citizen as are both of the children, the couple had spent 14 years living in Japan, the children had spent their entire lives in Japan, the ex-wife had been asking for a divorce during their life in Japan but was rejected by Mr. Savoie, after which she had agreed to Mr. Savoie's proposition to have the family move to the US, after which she was handed the divorce documents, Mr. Savoie remarries 1 month after the divorce with the woman he had been having an affair with during his previous marriage, the cheated ex-wife is consequently left alone in Tennessee, unemployed, with the need to learn the language and culture, and the list goes on and on. If you search for other blogs on this subject you will find that there is a growing number of people are becoming critical of Mr. Savoie and sympathizing more with the ex-wife. While there is certainly some room for the ex-wife to be blamed, I would not be inclined to position this incident as a "modernized US" vs "18th century Japan" issue as you have, and suggest, as many would agree, to realize that this is no more than a "sneaky father" vs a "wise mother" family dispute we see everywhere else. The media, CNN in particular, should be held responsible for reporting this incident with much prejudice and bias, much too early before looking into the factual details. I am certain this incident will fade from our memories as soon as Mr. Savoie is released and sent back to the US, all the better for the children I'm sure. My recommendation to penumbrook is to perhaps do a little more research on the factual background information surrounding this particular incident as I see a significant lack thereof, such as the fact that Mr. Savoie is a Japanese citizen as are both of the children, the couple had spent 14 years living in Japan, the children had spent their entire lives in Japan, the ex-wife had been asking for a divorce during their life in Japan but was rejected by Mr. Savoie, after which she had agreed to Mr. Savoie’s proposition to have the family move to the US, after which she was handed the divorce documents, Mr. Savoie remarries 1 month after the divorce with the woman he had been having an affair with during his previous marriage, the cheated ex-wife is consequently left alone in Tennessee, unemployed, with the need to learn the language and culture, and the list goes on and on. If you search for other blogs on this subject you will find that there is a growing number of people are becoming critical of Mr. Savoie and sympathizing more with the ex-wife. While there is certainly some room for the ex-wife to be blamed, I would not be inclined to position this incident as a “modernized US” vs “18th century Japan” issue as you have, and suggest, as many would agree, to realize that this is no more than a “sneaky father” vs a “wise mother” family dispute we see everywhere else. The media, CNN in particular, should be held responsible for reporting this incident with much prejudice and bias, much too early before looking into the factual details. I am certain this incident will fade from our memories as soon as Mr. Savoie is released and sent back to the US, all the better for the children I’m sure.

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]]> Comment on Big Island Police Open Murder Investigation by Justice for Jason http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/2009/09/13/big-island-police-open-murder-investigation/#comment-179 Justice for Jason Fri, 02 Oct 2009 22:51:57 +0000 http://penumbrook.wordpress.com/?p=612#comment-179 Robert You should check out the latest on the star bulletin story and leave your comments. as a good Friend of Jason's, I know it will help. http://www.topix.com/forum/city/laupahoehoe-hi/TJRNCTK4BL63HEGE0/p5#lastPost Robert You should check out the latest on the star bulletin story and leave your comments. as a good Friend of Jason’s, I know it will help.

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