Archive for June 12th, 2008

Kid’s Count Fails to Address Father-Loss

June 12, 2008

Kudos to reporter Helen Altonn of the Honolulu Star Bulletin for printing such a thorough article on the important Kid’s Count topic. (Isles’ teen and infant death rates decrease, 6/12/08.)

For all its ability to shed light on the causes of the dismal statistics, at least one statistic is not being tallied. The number of caring, loving father’s being driven out of families by no-fault divorce, easy temporary restraining orders, and primary custody to one parent. These factors alone can account for the increase in single-parent homes and the overburdened juvenile justice system.

Advocates of shared parenting legislation talk passionately in terms similar to Mr. Douglas Nelson, author of the included essay, “A Road Map for Juvenile Justice Reform.”

We Americans can realize what is happening to families across America by accepting that fathers, through no fault of their own and against their wishes, are being driven out of their homes, families, and the lives of the children they love.

Ejecting fathers from families is an ill conceived strategy that is directly connected to increases in crime. The national fatherless trend endangers young people’s emotional lives in the present and the future. The epidemic nature of father-loss wastes billions of taxpayer dollars on well-organized, but highly misguided feminists who coerce their local judiciaries into forcing men out of children’s lives.

Finally, trumping up a “bad parent” scenario is the de-facto technique where law abiding fathers are deemed to be harmful to their children, often without evidence, simply because their parenting is different than the custodial parent. Skilled, aggressive, and highly adversarial divorce lawyers have no qualms with violating our deepest-held constitutional guarantees of fair hearings in the secret and unaccountable Family Court system.

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Children in Poverty are Often Fatherless Children

June 12, 2008

A June 11, 2008 New York Times article focuses on a Colorado study that shows a 73% increase in child poverty since 2000. New Hampshire and Delaware fell into a distant 2nd and 3rd at 47% and 43% respectively. Children across the U.S. living in poverty have grown 9% from 2000 to 2006.

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While no single factor can explain these startling numbers, the article cites an increase in single-parent households first among the many reasons for the increases. What the article does not tell you is that the cause of single-parent households is, by far, no-fault divorce.

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Fathers are being pushed out of homes by spouses who want complete control of their children. Family courts, lawyers, psychologists, and a cadre of para-professionals are helping these women. Fathers a left scrambling and searching for support services that don’t exist for men.

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These children don’t just experience the loss of financial stability of a two-parent home. They are faced with a future of emotional uncertainty. A loved one has been driven from their lives and that’s just the beginning of a complex series of behaviors that will teach them, their Dad is a sub-human.

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If any state is serious about driving down rates of poverty, they have to shift their focus away from the family destructive policies of no-fault divorce, temporary restraining orders on demand, and primary custody to one parent.

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Over time, women who divorce will fare better, economically, than the men they push out of their lives. But the cost cannot be measured only in dollars.

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